Do you ever wonder how casualty came about? I do. I mean, when did it happen? How did it happen? What different things happened to make casuality in all its varied forms come about?
What happened to the guys in our society? When did it become that a girl was expected to pay for her share, or all of it if she asked? I went on a date on Friday and he was a complete and total gentleman. He did the whole opening the door, assisting into and out of the car, etc...and when he pulled back a chair for me it didn't even enter into my mind that he might have been doing it for me. Because of the normal guys I'm around I assumed he was pulling it out for him so when I sat down at a different chair and he just stood there looking at me I felt so silly- but it made me think.
When did it happen that guys became so casual? I mean, the reason I thought the chair was for him was because I've been conditioned that guys act for themselves. A guy get a chair for me? That happens? Wow. It was nice to know that those guys still exist. That there is someone out there--besides my brother because I have very intensely trained and taught him how to act. It's nice knowing that he makes the world a little bit of a better place : ) -- that knows how to treat a lady.
It makes you think, how did it happen? When and how did guys start to become lazy and lacksadaisical? There's really only one thing I can think of- we let them. I'm not sure if we felt like we needed to be independent so we refused their help or if one day a guy didn't hold back a chair and the girl just let it slide or what? I'm not sure how it started, but I think it's our fault it's gotten as far as it has. We should change it. I'm sure guys will be willing to be more chilvarous if they knew that's what we wanted. That they would give more respect if more was required.
Anyways, I don't know. It could be that I'm just insane, or that I'm just spitting my mind out onto this page with no order and no real meaning. I don't know. Have a good day!!
5 comments:
I loved your thoughts! I think that it is a combination of all the reasons you mentioned for the casualities. You hit the nail on the head when you said we could change it! Let's change it! I think guys will be an all around better group of people if we let them serve others, us!(little giggle). I think Thom had a lot of good help on his way toward how to treat ladies. I don't know who this guy is but I like the way he treated you. Are you going out with him again?
As Thom would say 'Chivalry's not dead...it just costs more!'
So I turned off word verification in the hopes that more people will comment on my blog. (I'm trying to make it as easy as possible to leave a comment) Anyhow sorry to put a damper in your word verification game - but at least I'm doing it after you got 'proud'!
Stupid feminist movement...who said we all wanted to be equal anyway? Being equal totally brought the female sex down...
You are right! Change them we must!
To make up for Stiff's lack of word verification, I'll tell you mine: elona which is obviously the name of the creator's pet llama. elona the llama.
I totally agree with Valerie. Casual started when women wanted equality. Who in their right mind wants equality when EQUALITY means getting casual. The question now is how do we get back what we lost.
I am going to answer my own question. We move away from casual when we refuse to settle for it. Set your sites high, expect it from everyone around you and settle for nothing less. Yes! sacrifices will be made but it will be worth it.
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